Are You A Boiling Frog?
Would $2 million satisfy all your wants, needs, and desires for the rest of your life?
Would $5 million?
Would $10 million or more?
Dr. Victor Frankl, a Nazi concentration camp survivor, in his book, Man’s Search for Meaning states:
“… men and women who were best able to survive the terrible and physical psychological deprivations were those who were determined to stay alive because of some reason bigger than themselves …”
For some reason, most of us do not let ourselves want what we do not believe we can cause to happen. Or, put another way, what we do not think, for one reason or another, we deserve to have happen.
Most psychologists believe that our Habits, Attitudes, Beliefs, and Expectations are 85% fixed into place by the age of 3 and solidified in our minds by the age of 5. What we typically lack at a young age is what motivates us as adults.
So, let’s start by having you answer these questions:
- Where do I feel stuck personally?
- What do I believe I can do or accomplish professionally?
- What are some beliefs that are stopping or restricting my growth?
What do you think will stand in your way to keep you from successfully answering these questions?
The answer is SCOTOMA… and is defined: A Scotoma is a partial loss of vision or a blind spot in an otherwise normal visual field. Scotomas prevent us from seeing or realizing opportunities when presented.
Look at the image below, do you see an old woman or a young woman or both?
What prevents you from seeing both is a scotoma. Other examples are below.
How many F’s are there is the below passage?
FINISHED FILES ARE THE RESULT OF YEARS OF SCIENTIFIC STUDY
COMBINED WITH THE EXPERIENCE OF MANY YEARS OF EXPERTS.
However, the conscious mind deals with external and external reality; whereas, the subconscious mind makes sure your external reality matches your beliefs about reality. But, there is a 3rd part of the mind called the creative subconscious that deals with self-awareness, self-esteem, and motivation.
Here comes the big IDBTS… At the base of your brain (see diagram below) is the RAS or the Reticular Activating System that maintains constant 2-way communications between your body and your mind.
Your reticular activating system is like a filter between your conscious mind and your subconscious mind. It takes instructions from your conscious mind and passes them on to your subconscious. For example, the instruction might be, “listen out for anyone saying my name”.
There are some interesting points about your RAS that make it an essential tool for achieving goals.
First, you can deliberately program the reticular activating system by choosing the exact messages you send from your conscious mind. For example, you can set goals, or say affirmations, or visualize your goals.
Second, your reticular activating system cannot distinguish between ‘real events’ and ‘synthetic’ reality. In other words it tends to believe whatever message you give it. Imagine that you’re going to be giving a speech. You can practice giving that speech by visualizing it in your mind. This ‘pretend’ practice should improve your ability to give the speech.
What we need to do is to create a very specific picture of our goal in our conscious mind. The RAS will then pass this on to our subconscious – which will then help us achieve the goal. It does this by bringing to our attention all the relevant information which otherwise might have remained as ‘background noise’.
We can become (within reason) that which we want to become but perceive through our scotomas that we cannot… as long as we can think a new way. And, it is difficult for us to think and accept this new way because we are boiling frogs.